Christian Dating Advisor proudly presents e-Lesson #24:
So the moment arrives... you have their number and the OK to call them.If you are like most people in this world you are probably feeling a bit nervous.
It's OK... there are things you can do to prepare for the phone call that will give you more confidence and help the conversation run smoother.
The biggest one is to have a "silence breaker" list... This is a simple little list of questions or topics that you have written out ahead of time that you can go to if the conversation ever stalls.
The items on your list should only be memory triggers not entire scripts :) You don't want to sound like you're reading off of something.
A lot of the rules that we mentioned in the previous email on Instant Messaging Apply to the phone call as well... like knowing when to end the conversation.
Here are important safety tips and other things to watch for when talking on the phone.
1. Don't rush into meeting someone right away... take some time to get to know them. If you feel you are being pushed just be straightforward and say no... if the person can't be patient with you they are not worth it.
2. Do not reveal your personal information unless you are sure about the person.
3. When chatting on the phone listen to the background noise. Do the background noises match the information they have told you? For example is the household supposed to have children, pets, etc.? Listen carefully!
4. Be sure to call at unanticipated moments. If they're interested in you, they'll be happy you called. If someone unexpected answers the phone, ask them about it. If your date seem irritated when you call unexpectedly, maybe they have something to hide.
5. It's also a great idea to ask for a family photo. Is your date supposed to be a 'family man?' Do they seem proud of their children? Does the photo match the details you were told?
6. If you don't want someone to be able to find your address from your phone number, de-list yourself from your local telephone directory.
Even though they say they're Christians and they seem normal, you can't play it too safe.
Stay tuned for the next lesson where we have a special surprise for you!
Until the next lesson ,
John and Leanne Morris
Your Christian dating coaches