Christian Dating Advisor proudly presents e-Lesson #30:
Three things you must do to impress that special someoneYou've probably heard that if you want to impress someone you've got to give then gifts, jewelry, have a great job, nice car... Right?
WRONG!
Money, Power and Gifts have nothing to do with impressing that special someone... or at least they shouldn't (If they do then maybe you're with the wrong person).
Below are the 3 things you must do to impress that special someone.
1. Call then the day after you go out with them
This is more important for the guys.
The call should be very brief... something to the effect of "I had a great time with you yesterday... hope we can do it again soon".
That's it... really. Don't make the mistake of calling and talking for too long.
The reason why it's important to call after the first date is because people have alot of questions going on through their head after the first date... they wonder if the other person had fun or if they didn't have fun and were just being nice. You wonder if the other person likes you etc...
A simple phone call does wonders to alleviate these feelings.
2. You have to remember things.
If you want to really impress that special someone make an extra effort to remember things she/he tells you. For example bring up something your special someone told you in one of your first conversations... maybe even something in their profile.
Also try extra hard to remember the details of the first couple dates... because it's in the first couple dates where you'll learn a huge amount about the other person.
If you have a bad memory then take a little piece of paper and a small pencil with you and write down things when you have a discrete moment. Or simply remember to write them down after the date.
3. You have to make the other person feel important.
This one should be given but so many people just don't get this point.
There is so much we could write about this one... where to start?
Let's start with listening... are you a good listener? Here are some tips:
1. Look at the other person when they are talking to you (but not in a scary way)
2. Nod your head in agreement and give other verbal queues that you are listening like "Uh huh's and ya's"
3. Don't cut the other person off (Even if you have a story on the same topic)
Make sure you sound impressed by what they are telling you... say stuff like: "That's so cool", "That's awesome", "I wish I could do that".
Also make sure you don't talk too much about yourself... encourage the other person to talk by asking them probing questions.
Finally smile at them once in a while... it does wonders.
That's it... remember these 3 things and your date will be very impressed.
Stay tuned for the next lesson...
Until the next lesson ,
John and Leanne Morris
Your Christian dating coaches